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What is resilience and who needs it anyway?

Resilience refers to how well you can deal with and bounce back from the difficulties of life. It can mean the difference between handling pressure and losing your cool. Resilient people tend to maintain a more positive outlook and cope with stress more effectively.

Research has shown that while some people seem to come by resilience naturally, these behaviors can also be learned. Whether you’re going through a tough time now or you want to be prepared for the next one, here are six techniques you can focus on in order to foster your own resilience.

1 Embrace Change, It’s How We Grow and Evolve.

Flexibility is an essential part of resilience. By learning how to be more adaptable, you’ll be better equipped to respond when faced with a life crisis. Resilient people often utilize these events as an opportunity to branch out in new directions. While some people may be crushed by abrupt changes, highly resilient individuals...

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend” ~ M. Beattie

Sometimes I wonder if I just got lucky. Maybe for this trip God chose to bless me with a joyful and grateful heart. I have wondered if it’s just that the challenges in my life are less than the joys, or just easier than other peoples challenges, maybe, or maybe not.

I have learned that living a life with gratitude and choosing thankfulness is a choice. There was a time I thought my life experience was based on external events, what I have thankfully learned is that living a happy joyful life comes from within ourselves and not what happens to us from outside forces. Shifts in our thinking from dull expectancy to joyful appreciation, can occur if we regularly and mindfully draw our attention to everything...

“It’s not what we don’t know that gets us in trouble; it’s what we know for sure that’s just not true.” –Mark Twain

Fear is the mechanism used by the ego to keep us tied to our thoughts and beliefs. It results in our ego state of consciousness. Fear is the glue the ego uses to bind us to itself, and fear is what needs to be overcome to be free of ego-identification. Fortunately, it isn’t as difficult as it sounds. After all, fear is just another idea, and like all ideas, fear is only as real and holds as much power as we give it.

The best definition of FEAR that I have heard is: False Evidence Appearing Real

How difficult is it to overcome something that has no reality or truth? Overcoming fear- based beliefs is only difficult if you make fear a reality by believing in it.

Fear is a creation of the ego. If you examine any one of your fears, you’ll see that it refers to a future possibility, not a current...

You were born with gifts, creative talents and natural genius.

There is something special and unique to you alone that you need to share with the world. Your natural genius, or real-life super power, is hardwired within you. You can do this thing(s) in a way that no one else can. When you tap into your super power, you begin to step into your greatness.  When expressing your gifts and serving others, you will experience a joy and richness not found in everyday life.

When operating from this place, you are raising your consciousness – your energetic vibration.  As your energetic frequency raises, it acts as a beacon, and you inspire others to do the same.   The more you feel joy and happiness, the greater the signal you send out into the world, influencing others in a positive and helpful way.  This is a way of transforming yourself and others that many people do not think about.  Just by being who you were born to be, you...

“The greatest gift you can give to somebody is your own personal development. I used to say, “If you will take care of me, I will take care of you.” Now I say, “I will take care of me for you if you will take care of you for me.” ~Jim Rohn

Our relationships make up the most important experiences of our lives. Our entire reality is created from, and based upon, our relationship with ourselves and the people around us. This may sound obvious; yet few people stop and take a deeper look at this most powerful and fascinating entity termed ‘relationship’.

Nothing in our lives brings us more joy, peace and fulfillment or creates more pain, suffering and tragedy than our relationships. Virtually everything we know and understand about ourselves is recognized and understood through our relationships. This is why being in relationship is the most sacred and powerful experience you will have in your lifetime. Your relationships can serve as tools to...

“We are never so trivial as when we take ourselves seriously” – Oscar Wilde

One of the more important and challenging teachings of the Toltec Path for me was learning to let go of myself importance. Once I saw how this self concept blocked my joy and peace in the moment it became easier for me to start to let go of my pettiness and need to take everything that happened so personally.

With out even noticing, many of us have adopted a belief that everything that occurs in our life is in some way about us. With that comes the opportunity to personalize every encounter and experience we have with others and life. This is great if the place we are coming from is love. However, many of us have  unconscious fear-based beliefs and wounds  that distort our experiences and create the illusion that in some way we are being attacked or made wrong, when often it is a distorted view we are experiencing through the filters of our beliefs.

Our concept of self-importance...

What if loneliness was simply a feeling of impatience, telepathically sent to you by friends you have yet to meet, experiences life was calling you towards, urging you to go out more, do more, and get involved, so that life’s serendipitous moments could bring you together? Would you still feel alone?

What if illness was just a signal a healthy body sent to urge clarification of your thoughts, feelings and dreams? Would you still, at times, think of yourself as sick?

What if mistakes and failures only ever happened when your life was about to get even better than it has ever been before? Would you still call them mistakes and failures?

And, what if poverty and lack were simply demonstrations of your manifesting prowess, as “difficult” to acquire as wealth and abundance? Would they still cause you to feel powerless?

What if what felt like being in a crisis or stuck was nature’s way of urging us to let go of patterns, and ways of being that no longer...

“You can manage things, but people deserve to be led. Too often people are over managed and under led.”

As a heart centered servant leader your focus is to be a positive, inspiring leader to others. A good leader does not judge or assume, instead they seek clarity and understanding, asking the right questions instead rushing to judgment, assumptions or assigning blame.

It is helpful to remember that you lead by encouragement and inspiration, not by fear and control.  In the long run, we are not going to change people through our efforts at maintaining power over them. We can only invite others to get on board with us by asking for their opinions and help and, ultimately, letting go and trusting them to make good decisions.

Positive Leadership Model explained:

The foundation of any relationship is trust. Without trust there is no real connection. Without connection, you lack respect and openness, without these key relationship ingredients a healthy relationship...

The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place. – George Bernard Shaw

Communication is every leader and organization’s greatest ally or unacknowledged burden.

One of the biggest challenges for people when in conflict with others is dealing with the emotional content and each other’s feelings and differences. Because this is difficult for most people at given times, the most common way to deal with it is to avoid or dismiss how you or others are feeling. This is the biggest cause of broken communication, repeating issues and lack of resolution to persistent work relationship issues.

People have different viewpoints, and under the right set of circumstances, those differences escalate to conflict.

Conflict isn’t necessarily a bad thing, though. Healthy and constructive conflict is a component of high-functioning teams. Conflict arises from differences between people; the same differences that often make diverse teams more...

The best managers and leaders have a fundamentally different understanding of workplace, company, and team dynamics. In my 25 plus years in business and over 12 years as an executive and leadership coach I have worked with hundreds of Business owners, leaders and managers.  I learned that the “best of the best” tend to share the following eight core beliefs.

Business is an ecosystem, not a battlefield.

Average bosses see business as a conflict between companies, departments and groups. They build huge armies of “troops” to order about, demonize competitors as “enemies,” and treat customers as “territory” to be conquered.

Extraordinary bosses see business as a symbiosis where the most diverse firm is most likely to survive and thrive. They naturally create teams that adapt easily to new markets and can quickly form partnerships with other companies, customers … and even competitors.

A company is a community, not a machine.

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